*Originally posted as "25 Things I Hope My Daughter Learns Before Her 25th Birthday.
Ever since my 12th birthday, I've always taken time on this day to write down a list of things in my journal that I'm grateful for from the previous year, as well as a list of what I want to accomplish during the next year.
Even though I'll do the same thing again today [now that I'm an ancient, quarter of a century old!], I wanted to come up with a new kind of list. Although I know my daughter has picked up on some things since the day she was born, she is now really getting to that stage where the focus isn't so much on physical accomplishments and milestones (sitting up, crawling, walking, etc), but rather more on her cognitive development and understanding. The values and beliefs that I want her to learn and be taught has been on my mind a lot more lately, so I decided to come up with something a little more focused on her today :)
So, in no particular order, the following list contains 25 [out of the many] things I hope that my children learn by their 25th birthdays ♥️
1. I hope they learn what unconditional love is and what it looks like - that they know love never needs to be earned. I hope they realize just how unconditionally loved they are, as well as learn how to express and give back that same unconditional love to others.
2. I hope they learn the meaning of acceptance and know that they are fully accepted by us, regardless of any future differences or disagreements. I hope that they learn to accept themselves as they are, as well as others.
3. I hope they learn that it is okay to make a mistake - that mistakes don't define who you are or what you are capable of. They are lessons (that sometimes they might have to relearn a few times, especially if they're anything like us!)
4. I hope they learn, on that same note, to not let failure get to them - that they would not only understand the value of mistakes, but also learn how to push through and pull themselves back up again.
5. I hope they learn how crucial it is to discover who they are - that it is important to pursue their own individuality and never try to be the person they think others want them to be.
6. I hope they learn that it is okay to be different - to embrace everything unique and special about themselves and never attempt to hide it.
7. I hope they learn to value relationships with the people - family or friends - who unconditionally love them and will have their backs, no matter what.
8. I hope they learn to never stop learning. I hope that they develop a love for learning that expands beyond school walls and that they realize the importance of continual growth and personal development.
9. I hope they learn to really enjoy life and fully embrace every moment they have. I never want them to get so caught up in goals, aspirations, and the future that they forget about today and breathing in the moments.
10. I hope they learn to take each stage of life at a time and enjoy it. I hope their childhood is full of imagination and innocence, their teen years full of fun and a growing sense of independence, and their college days full of discovering who they are and what they want.
11. I hope they learn what it means to trust and how to balance the fine line between trusting others while also guarding themselves from harmful individuals and situations.
12. I hope they learn how to develop and maintain that [vitally important] deep inner peace - that sense of contentment that comes from living authentically and being exactly who they are meant to be.
13. I hope they learn discernment - that they will have the ability to read between the lines and to see through fake people who will only attempt to use them.
14. I hope they learn to listen to their instinct and intuition - and that they will never let someone else's voice override what they truly and deeply feel is right.
15. I hope they learn what their passions are - those dreams and goals that drive them forward and burn a hole in their hearts. I hope they learn to pursue them wholeheartedly and that they never give up on what they really want.
16. I hope they learn how to fight for others and what is right - that they stand up not only for themselves, but for those around them and those who don't have a voice.
17. I hope they learn how to forgive and let go - and to learn that forgiveness never means forgetting, but just realizing life is too short and they are too big of a person to be held back by the past.
18. I hope they learn to enjoy working hard and to take pride in their work and accomplishments.
19. I hope they learn to respect others, while remembering to always respect and stand up for themselves.
20. I hope they learn how to voice their opinions, feelings, and beliefs - and that they never hide anything out of fear from what others might say or think.
21. I hope they learn to have faith and that they make it their own.
22. I hope they learn to love their bodies, to treat themselves well, and to know that their value is never determined by the number on the scale or the image reflecting back in the mirror.
23. I hope they learn how to be a good friend - how to give of themselves in relationships, how to listen, and how to offer support.
24. I hope they learn what to look for in a spouse - what actions and characteristics decipher between a possible partner who is worth her time and one who is not.
25. Finally, out of all the above, one of the biggest things that I hope they learn is their own self-worth - that they are worthy of respect and every basic right endowed to human beings. I hope they learn to never allow people to treat them as less or, worse, accept any form of abuse - that instead, to know they deserve to always be treated with respect, love, and acceptance. I hope they learn that their self-worth is never based on anything they say or do...but merely on the fact that they breathe and exist.
Wife and lucky mom of two babes (soon to be three). Lover of beautiful words, strong coffee, & Lake Michigan. Passionate about big dreams, pursuing your calling, and becoming more than who you were yesterday.