I remember the excitement of my first car drive. Alone. That first time I got to sit in the driver's seat of our cute, tan Honda which survived me going through Drivers Ed. The energy and enthusiasm inside as I put the key in. The heart-pounding excitement as I changed gears and pulled out onto the road, for the very first time. I was aware of everything. Every passing car and the speed of which I was going. The sensation of freedom and independence. The caution and hesitation when pulling up to a light or attempting to park.
We all have "firsts"...and plenty of them. Some smaller, like your first "licensed" drive and some bigger, such as the day your child was born and you looked into their eyes for the first time.
Our life is entirely made up of these moments.
Your first kiss.
The first day of the first job you ever were hired for.
That first day of college.
The first time you were announced as "husband and wife".
The first time you heard your child's voice.
All of these are gifts. And, in the beginning, we treat them as such - with excitement, enthusiasm, and gratitude.
And then we stop. We let ourselves get used to it all. We begin taking it for granted. We forget what life was once like without these gifts.
Why do we allow such beauty become mundane?
Why do we forget?
When do we stop remembering the simple truth: that everything in our lives, we did not nor will always have?
You did not always have children.
You did not always have your home.
You did not always have your job.
You did not always have your husband.
You did not always have [insert here].
You did not even always have life.
I want to remember this. I NEED to remember this. We all need to remember this...every single morning. Remember that what we've fallen into the habit of taking for granted...are actually gifts we were never really entitled to have.
A good childhood.
Being able to drive.
Being able to physically work.
Falling in love.
The list goes on and on...
Stop letting yourself get "used to" it all.
Don't get "used to" cuddling with your toddler every morning. Don't get "used to" your husband leaving for a good job and then coming back home every day. Don't get "used to" phone calls or visits with your parents. Don't get "used to" goodbye kisses, family meals, or even waking up every day.
Treat it all as if it were your very first time. As if you were seeing it for the first time. Experiencing it for the first time.
Kiss as if you've never kissed his lips before. Love like you haven't yet had the chance to love. Go to work as if it were your very first day. Give everything your absolute all - all your focus, all your drive, and all your energy.
Soak it in - every single moment.
Stop taking all of these - what was once a "first" - for granted. Never forget how special these moments were at one point. Don't believe the lie that any of it should be expected or that you are entitled to it. Open yourself to see, feel, and experience all of today's gifts, as if it were your very first time.
Wife and lucky mom. Lover of beautiful words + big dreams. Passionate about alternative health, positive psychology, & early childhood education.